Sex helpful

Foreign Press tells about ordinary achievements of world science. At this time, scientists have found what factors depends on the power of sexual attraction and how men and women are betrayals. It was found that even men can develop a "conditioned reflex" fidelity, and love on a subconscious level, "blind" man, that he did not notice the temptations, wrote inopressa.ru.





British The Independent article "Science of passion" wrote about the studies on sexual attraction. Understanding what is the attraction, would better cope with difficulties in the intimate sphere, explains the newspaper.



Sex is useful, and the ability to experience orgasm - is proof of general health. Recently, scientists from Wales, found that men who often have an orgasm, the likelihood of heart disease decreases by 50%. In addition, sex raises self-esteem. Men tend with sexuality to prove their own masculinity, and some women, sex, and does need, however, in order to ensure its attractiveness.



In addition, women's libido is directly linked to reproductive function. It is known that the libido increases during the follicular phase of the cycle when the probability of conception are highest.



Regardless of age, sex enhances the quality of life, mood and overall health. According to available data, with the age of sexual intimacy gives people more pleasure. The study, which involved men aged over 60 found that older people do not worry so much about his accomplishments in his bed, as young and sex gives them more pleasure, regardless of how serious the problem with erectile dysfunction, they are experiencing.



Danish researchers using the survey found that in the oldest age group (average age - 81), women basically did not have sex because of lack of desire, and men - because of problems with erection. Thus, male old age "soul yearns, even if the flesh is weak", the publication noted.



In long-standing partners attracted to each other increases in those days, when they get on well, and decreases when their relationship is far from ideal. The influence of this factor is more noticeable in women, but men can also benefit from the fact that his partner feels more attraction, the newspaper said. On the sexual needs of women affected and self-esteem: if a partner says the woman that she looks like a stimulant, or a declaration of love, it increases the attraction.



North American scientists also sit on their hands. They explored the unconscious attitudes of men and women to treason and found that they react differently to temptation, wrote The Los Angeles Times. Benefits of a permanent partner are huge, like the newspaper. Long-term relations improve mood, enhance health, prolong life and allow to pass their genes to future generations. That is why the fight against the temptation of adultery in the human brain in a stock there are a number of tricks.



Specialists from McGill University in Montreal conducted a series of experiments, which attracted 150 women and men to determine how the human subconscious mind reacts to the threat to existing relationships. The first test was a conversation with an attractive person of the opposite sex, after which the subjects played with "in the association. It was found that in women after such meetings are waking up anxiety, and men - no.



Then the volunteers were subjected to this temptation: they were invited to talk with an actor or actress, who own the art of subtle flirtation (participants in the experiment did not know that they face an actor). After that guinea asked the question: how would they react to the fault of his "second half" - late or lie? Men after a conversation with an attractive girl spoke more critically about their present partner, and women, by contrast, were more tolerant to the sallies boyfriends.



Thus, unconsciously, a man considers flirting girl as a good alternative partner. She also sees an attractive young man's alternative, but felt threatened by him, and therefore seeks to strengthen existing relationships.



The researchers then turned to the computer game, where participants were required to decompose the scattered across the screen image: photos of animals, fruit and attractive people. Women are instinctively repelled by the image beauties, and men, by contrast, attracted by good looking girls closer.



However, men can develop a conditioned reflex of loyalty, say researchers. Once the subjects were asked to plan the tactics to protect their relationship as an example the situation with a casual acquaintance in a bar, representatives of the stronger sex have become more cautious. In virtual space, they are subconsciously avoid places with the image of an attractive girl, which occurred only a few thousandths of a second - that is, recorded only subconscious.



In addition, both men and women love can suppress the thought of treason, officers found University of California at Los Angeles. Moreover, love can selectively block the memories. So, in love, looking at the image a nice representative of the opposite sex, and later could not remember important details about it. They could not tell whether what they had seen a good man figure, but remember what he was wearing and that he held in his hands.



And the best way to cope with temptation - it just did not notice, says the newspaper. It was established with the help of a special computer program, view a lover man quickly distracted from the beautiful images with the opposite sex. Surprisingly, in men it is more likely than women.



"Men and women face different tests in their relationships, but long-term benefits are great and for those for the other - leads The Los Angeles Times commentary psychologist Gian Gonzaga. - The idea is that people are ready to defend their relationship, when aware that they are something threatening.

Women are not predictable in contrast to men

Psychologists from the United States after the regular research on ways to select the second half of the men and women came to the conclusion that choosing a partner woman and her interest is very difficult to predict, in comparison with the choice of men.





Results showed that women often draw attention to a man of strong and straight. In addition, a woman may behave compulsively, and flirt, but not really be interested in continuing the acquaintance. Experts noted that the intentions of women difficult to predict, in contrast to the intentions of men.



In the experiment, analyzed videotapes passing fad, when participants were asked to literally minutes of intercourse, and then they declared to each other, who like someone who is not, and who wants to continue to communicate.



It was found that 80% of the men wrongly predicted the women's opinions about the partners and could not guess their choice. Women are also more accurately determined, whether the woman liked the man.

The result was that more women are being misled men, flirting just.

Self-esteem and family relationships

The first sign of trouble in the family relations - the lack of a smile on a woman's face. Tensely compressed lips, sad wrinkle, cutting his forehead, dormant, dull eyes, sad, anguished or angry facial expression, plod. When you meet a woman, it can not but feel the pain and realize that the house she was wrong.

Wanting to change something in our lives, we women, we begin to act spontaneously, at nothing: indignant, crying, shouting, rolls up the stage, forgetting that there is nothing more repulsive to a man and harder for children than thunderous woman, cursed, threatened and insulted .

Not better, and self-deprecating groans, tears of helplessness, pleas for compassion, respect for the request, begging love. Do not bring success and measures of the type "prison love": the refusal of communication, silence, prohibition of intimacy. And if we add to this painful the inevitable guilt that arises every time after another "stormy scenes"? In short, what would you do under the influence of resentment or anger, anger or despair, all is not only not lead to success, but on the contrary, tighter zavyazhet sites family conflict.

But no matter how hopeless deadlock and neither seemed to us a family situation, a lot can change, if strongly reject attempts to alter the life of the old, futile, and make every effort to find new ones.

Think for yourself, after all, a difficult situation did not come immediately, not in one day. The pain, grievances, problems have been accumulating gradually. Therefore, the same gradual and, perhaps, be a long process of healing and the family.

How to start? With yourself! You should begin with the ability to understand ourselves and to love. Understand their own uniqueness in this world and love for this and for all what you think, feel, create - for all that is good and good comes from you!
Is it difficult? But choose a time for yourself, stop it, at least half an hour, and again going over in memory insulting, wounding words, do not go back to the dark memories. Just ask yourself - who you are, how are you? Think about those days, the moments when you were happy and enjoyed themselves, about the deeds and actions, for which you self-respect, everything what you are proud.

It does not matter whether it is a great achievement at work or to hear a lot of nice compliments once your mind in a new dress. Maybe it will be the memories of summer trips or unusually pleasant vacation, the first love or good deeds, committed by you to someone. Going over it all in memory, focus, feel like individuals, feel his own worth in this life.

That's the feeling of self-worth is the most important psychological factor that determines everything that happens to a man inside his own peace of mind and around him, in communicating with other people. This imprint itself, its personal significance, which have each of us.

This feeling is not inherited, not genetically conditioned. It is formed in us from birth to death, so never too late to appreciate themselves. Anyone, even the most difficult, the time of our lives may become a primary impetus to improve its relations with itself.

When this takes place, will change your view on what is happening around you. You must remember and know that everything that you feel you are doing, worrying, your mind and soul, body and feelings - this is only yours and nobody's more! You belong to your dreams and deeds, your victories and successes, your accomplishments and your mistakes. And you live with all this, dispose of, building their lives and family relationships.

You are on forces and take a decision and execute it to the end. Now in a tranquil state, you can think about family relationships, which have become a serious problem, to find in them their own miscalculations and mistakes. If you love your husband and want to keep the family together, try to understand what he wants from you, which is seeking. It is possible that the cause of the deterioration of family relationships have become so insignificant things, inflated offense that the sound reflection, it hurts for his inability to control himself at the right time.
All people are different, and way of thinking, perception of things, even the husband and wife who have lived many years in one house may be different. Try to understand the claim of her husband, compare them with their grievances. If there is to be a lack of understanding, inability to communicate with each other, what annoys you, offends, insults, seek the path to this understanding.

Dissatisfaction, reproaches, bewilderment or resentment should not empty into a hysteria of insults to each other on the head, mixing all here that have accumulated over many years of claim. If you are offended by something - say so calmly as possible, explain why you are offended at this or that behavior, actions, words. Believe me, my husband you would understand, if ... if he also wants to preserve the family, peace and prosperity at home and in family relations.

And if not? Well, think for yourself, whether you want to live with a man who, knowing everything is deliberately trying to hurt you? And does so even after you have repeatedly explained to him the depth of their resentment. All the same, sooner or later, this family is destroyed, but how much humiliation and tears have to swallow before the end?

One reason for the deterioration of family relationships is a betrayal of her husband. And then you should not punish himself for what he found better than you, that you are not bad, that you do not like. The cause of infidelity are not necessarily shortcomings of his wife. But what to do next, what to do - it is necessary to solve it. Definitive conclusion that can not be forgiven, and output - a divorce, do so immediately so it is not necessary, even if you advise it on all sides. Too many women, simply a mistake her husband, live happily for many years. But if you understand clearly that will never be able to remove from the heart of resentment and forgive, decide whether to live on.

A woman with a developed sense of dignity, self-consciously value of supporting self-assessment at the appropriate level, no one can compel to live as she wants! Every day we have lived through - not a draft, which is tomorrow can be rewritten without corrections. Even the time fixed bugs are notched at the bottom of our memory, and what to talk about serious issues, which destroy us all the time?

But to make important decisions, we should calmly and deliberately. If we want to be listened to talk quietly. Louder than insulting and hysterical sound arguments, the less chance that they will hear. On the contrary, you will have to look no less than insulting words to resist the onslaught, without any concern, you are right or not.

The woman, confident in itself, creates an atmosphere around the peace, goodwill and love. If you are able to understand this, you will understand and your loved ones, they may begin to feel as they began to feel and yourself. You will listen, you will start to look closely, you will be interested, perhaps, as this has never happened before in your life ... And all this could be the beginning of the happy life of your dreams!